10 May Top Twenty Divorce Mistakes – Part 1
As a firm that practices Family Law, a large number of our cases involve divorce and it is no wonder – the common statistic is that 50% of all marriages end in divorce. This week, Tessmer Law Firm brings you 20 Divorce Mistakes:
Divorce Mistake #1: Believing your spouse will be fair and amicable. Most people facing divorce are emotionally vulnerable and upset; some are in a state of denial. You may think your spouse will treat you well throughout the process, but chances are things will become antagonistic. Look out for yourself and expect him – or her – to do the same.
Divorce Mistake #2: Allowing your spouse to convince you to NOT hire a lawyer. If your spouse has retained an attorney, you need to find one quickly. If you do not, consider yourself an amateur playing against a professional. And no, an attorney cannot represent BOTH parties – it is unethical and creates a conflict of interest. The divorce process is adversarial by design; if your spouse is encouraging you to forego an attorney, chances are she has something to hide or something she wants, and she knows if you hire a lawyer it will be more difficult to get it.
Divorce Mistake #3: Taking legal advice from family and/or friends. They can be your emotional rocks to lean on, but don’t even begin to think they are a substitute for an attorney. The ONLY person who can – and should – tell you what is in your best interest during the dissolution of your marriage is your lawyer!