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How to Behave on Social Media During Divorce

How to Behave on Social Media During Divorce

If you’re like a lot of adults, you at the least have a Facebook and an Instagram account. Perhaps even a Snapchat and Twitter account. Since so many divorcing couples have social media accounts, divorce attorneys have seen first-hand as spouses have made big mistakes on social media, impacting their divorce!

If you are active on social media, it’s important to learn the dos and do NOTS of social media while going through a divorce. Why? Even if you make one of the common mistakes, it can have a negative effect on alimony (spousal support), the number of legal fees that you pay, and even child custody. Keep reading to find out what to do and not do if you’re going through a divorce.

How Social Media Can Hurt You
Previously, divorcing parties thought they could post and comment on social media, especially Facebook, without it affecting their divorce. Freedom of speech right? Wrong! As it turns out, social media can have a negative impact on people’s divorce cases for more reasons than one. “How so?” you might ask.

For one, if you’re arguing that you can’t afford to pay spousal support but you post pictures of you on an extravagant vacation.. or if you post pics of your brand new BMW, the social media posts can be used as evidence/proof against you in your case.

Next, if you’re fighting for child custody but you keep posting pics of your drinking alcohol, smoking, or otherwise partying at bars and nightclubs, these images do not give you your best look and your soon-to-be-ex can use them to defeat you.

Lastly, an amicable divorce is usually best for all concerned. When you can have an uncontested divorce, it reduces stress and legal fees and makes everyone’s life easier. However, a friendly divorce can be ruined with just a single social media post where you rant about your significant other. If word gets back to him or her or if someone screenshots your angry rant, it can enrage your spouse and before you know it, your friendly divorce can turn into a not-so-friendly legal nightmare that drags through the courts for months if not years.

Social Media Tips
If you are on the road to, or in the middle of a divorce, follow these social media tips:

  • Do not change your relationship status on Facebook from “married” to “single” until your divorce is final. Doing so may only upset your spouse.
  • Do not discuss the divorce publicly on social media.
  • Do not badmouth your spouse on social media.
  • Do not post any pics that depict you spending a lot of money.
  • Do not post any pics that depict you partying.
  • If you aren’t comfortable with a judge or your spouse’s attorney seeing the post, don’t post it.
  • Avoid posting pics of you dating anyone new until you’re officially single.
  • If you have to ask yourself, “Is this appropriate to post?” it’s best not to post it.
  • If you’re concerned that you can’t control your posts during your divorce, it may be wise to take a social media fast until your divorce is final.
  • If a social media fast is too excessive, you can scroll through your feed and like and comment on others’ posts, but avoid posting yourself.