21 Apr Domestic Violence Warning Signs
WARNING SIGN #4: IT’S NOT HIS FAULT:
What do you know about his childhood? Did he experience abuse or neglect? If so, do these experiences continue to have a negative impact him? Having experienced an abusive childhood is not necessarily a deal-breaker, but if he uses his history of abuse as an excuse for his poor attitude or for feeling a general sense of resentment and entitlement, this should be on your radar. Those with a sense of entitlement believe they should receive special treatment or considerations not afforded to others. They have an unjust sense of superiority and assume that their wants and needs are more important than those of others. After the glow of infatuation wears off, the abuser will regard his feelings and desires as more important than yours. If you agree, you’ll get depressed. If you disagree, you’ll get abused. Individuals who feel like they have been unfairly treated are typically resentful of others. The abuser will contend that no one has helped him, understood his needs, or that he has been denied praise, recognition, or affection. Abusers are so focused on themselves that they are incapable of considering the needs of others. If you find yourself in a relationship with a resentful person, you will spend considerable time reassuring, praising, and accommodating your partner; in return your resentful partner will surely be insensitive to your needs, feelings or rights.