08 Jun Children of Divorce Need Both Parents
There is no question that divorce is painful under any circumstance. Sometimes a divorcing parent feels so hurt and angry, they want to lash out at their soon-to-be ex and they do that through their kids. This is central to the plot of our next recommended family law movie.
Mrs. Doubtfire is a 1993 comedy starring Robin Williams and Sally Field as Daniel and Miranda Hillard, a San Francisco couple with three children Daniel is a devoted and loving father, but is unreliable as a husband. After a furious argument, Miranda files for divorce and is awarded custody of the children at their first hearing, because Daniel is unemployed and has no place to live.
Desperate to stay connected with his kids, Daniel applies to Miranda’s ad to hire a housekeeper as a Scottish nanny named Euphegenia Doubtfire. When Miranda invites Mrs. Doubtfire for an interview, Daniel enlists the help of his makeup artist brother to transform him into the character. Miranda hires Mrs. Doubtfire and they soon become a family. Miranda becomes friends with Mrs. Doubtfire, whom the kids adore. Everyone is happy. Daniel becomes more responsible and trustworthy as he learns about taking care of the family while pretending to be Mrs. Doubtfire. But when he asks Miranda to allow him to look after the kids, Miranda tells him that she cannot fire Mrs. Doubtfire now that their lives have been made so much better by her.
Ultimately, Daniel’s secret identity is revealed, but the good news is that playing “Mrs. Doubtfire” leads to a new job with his own television show. At their next custody hearing, Daniel is able to show that he has a job and a suitable home, and gives a heartfelt speech about why he created and pretended to be Mrs. Doubtfire. The judge is sympathetic, but grants Miranda full custody, with Daniel limited to supervised visitation once per week.
Without Mrs. Doubtfire, the family is miserable. Miranda decides to appeal the custody ruling because she sees now how much happier the kids were when Daniel was involved. As the movie closes, Mrs. Doubtfire tells her new television audience that no matter what arrangements families have, love will always prevail.
In Mrs. Doubtfire, Robin Williams makes us laugh out loud. He also shows us how important it is for children of divorce to have both parents. It may be one thing to have an ex who is completely disinterested in being a part of your children’s lives. However, if your ex is a loving parent who really wants to be involved with the kids, it is in their best interest to help foster that relationship, especially if you are custodial parent. Denying visits and making things difficult only hurts your children in the long run.
Are you a divorced parent in the San Antonio area and being denied vistation or access to your children? There are ways that we can help. Call us today at 210-368-9708 to schedule a consultation. Remember, at Tessmer Law Firm, PLLC, families come first!